5 Signs That Your Relationship Is Built to Last
Hey kings & queens! Let’s talk about something that’s super important—knowing if your relationship is built to stand the test of time. Tarot, with its deep wisdom, can guide us in understanding the hidden layers of love, trust, and commitment. Whether you're in a new relationship or you’ve been vibing with your person for a minute, these 5 tarot-inspired signs will help you recognize if you're on the path to a lasting connection. Plus, we’re throwing in some juicy Oracle advice for extra insight. So grab your favorite crystal, light that sage, and let’s get into it.
1. Surviving the Tough Times Together (10 of Swords + 7 of Wands)
When the 10 of Swords shows up, it’s a reminder that even the strongest relationships go through rough patches—betrayal, loss, or moments of intense stress. But here's the key: if both of you are willing to get back up and fight for each other, like the 7 of Wands encourages, you're built for the long haul. It’s not about avoiding pain or hardship but how you navigate through them together. That means standing by each other’s side when it feels like the world is against you.
In relationships built to last, the ability to face conflict head-on, without backing down, is a huge green flag. It’s not about drama or constant fighting but about knowing that no matter what life throws at you, you’ll defend the bond you’ve created. The willingness to struggle, heal, and rise again proves the strength of your connection.
2. Emotional Fulfillment (10 of Cups)
The 10 of Cups is the ultimate card when it comes to emotional harmony and fulfillment. If your relationship makes you feel seen, understood, and genuinely happy—you’re on the right track. This card is all about that deep, satisfying love that goes beyond the honeymoon phase. It’s not just about romantic gestures; it's that soul-deep contentment that comes from mutual respect, shared values, and love that feels like home.
When your relationship feels like a safe space, one where you can be yourself without judgment, that’s a sign you’ve found something lasting. The 10 of Cups energy isn’t about superficial connections; it’s about building a foundation where your emotional needs are met, and you do the same for your partner. This is the kind of energy that creates a future together, where both of you are building towards your vision of happiness.
3. Boredom Isn’t a Deal-Breaker (4 of Cups Reversed)
Let’s keep it real—relationships can sometimes get boring. That’s natural. The 4 of Cups Reversed signals that even when things feel a little stale, a lasting relationship knows how to find new ways to reconnect. If you and your partner recognize the lulls but are still willing to invest in each other and try new things to spark that connection, it’s a sign you’re building something strong.
In relationships that last, boredom isn’t a dead end; it’s an opportunity for growth. Maybe you both try new experiences, travel, or take up new hobbies together. The magic is in the effort. Both of you are conscious of avoiding stagnation, and that means you're in it for the long run. You’re not just surviving the day-to-day; you’re thriving together through the ups and downs.
4. Willingness to Invest (Seven of Pentacles Reversed)
The Seven of Pentacles Reversed speaks to the frustration that can come from waiting for things to flourish. It’s like planting seeds and wondering, “When are we gonna see some real results?” But here's the thing—relationships are a continuous investment, and sometimes it takes a while to see the rewards. In lasting relationships, both partners understand that growth isn’t always immediate. You’re not always going to get instant gratification.
This card shows up as a reminder to reassess your efforts. Are you both putting in the necessary work? If both partners are committed to nurturing the relationship, even when things aren’t happening as fast as expected, it’s a sign of long-term potential. Relationships that last aren’t just about love; they’re about patience, shared effort, and a willingness to adapt when things don’t go exactly as planned.
5. Embracing New Beginnings (The Fool)
Finally, the Fool at the bottom of the deck ties everything together. Lasting relationships aren’t afraid of new beginnings. Whether it’s trying something new, moving to a new city, or simply taking risks to grow together, this card signals that both of you have an adventurous spirit. You’re willing to step into the unknown together, hand in hand, trusting that no matter what comes next, you’re ready for it.
This isn’t about being reckless but about trusting the journey and each other. When you both have faith in where your relationship is going, without fear of what’s to come, that’s a relationship built to last. It shows you’re ready to evolve, learn, and take on the world together.
Oracle Bonus: Stay Open and Patient
Now, let’s turn to the Oracle cards for some extra wisdom. Messenger is here to remind you that you and your partner are part of something bigger. This card asks you to keep your lines of communication open—cosmic messages are always flowing, and they’re guiding you both.
With Star Family Reversed, you’re being called to reflect on whether you and your partner are feeling isolated or disconnected from others. Strong relationships encourage each other to stay connected to community and loved ones, so be mindful of whether you’re cutting yourselves off from those important outside bonds.
The advice to Wait comes with deep wisdom—everything doesn’t need to happen at once. Patience is key. Finally, Lifting the Veil Reversed suggests it’s time to reexamine any illusions in your relationship. Are there things you’re ignoring or avoiding discussing? When you confront the truth with love and compassion, you set the stage for long-term success.
Resources for Building a Lasting Relationship:
Tarot for Relationships by Shaheen Miro & Theresa Reed – A fantastic resource for understanding how tarot can guide you through love and partnerships.
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman – Get to know your partner’s love language to strengthen your bond.
Rising Strong by Brené Brown – Perfect for learning how to rise together after hard times.
Couples Therapy Workbook by Kathleen Mates-Youngman – Great practical exercises for deepening connection and resolving conflict.
Your relationship is a journey, kings and queens, and tarot can light the way. Embrace the tough moments, celebrate the joy, and trust that as long as you both keep showing up with love and intention, you’ve got this.
