10 Secrets to Self-Healing: How to Take Back Your Power

When it comes to self-healing, let me start by being real: only you can heal yourself. Yes, life will throw you curveballs, people might hurt you, and some things won’t make sense, but the responsibility to heal is yours—and yours alone. It starts with knowing that no one is coming to save you. Healing isn’t easy, but it’s the most empowering thing you can do. Let me share with you the real deal on how to step into your self-healing journey, blending what I’ve learned and a little bit of spirit guidance from the Tarot (because you know I asked my guides for their two cents).

First, let’s get into these cards, because they’re telling a story. I pulled the 10 of Cups reversed and the 2 of Swords reversed at the bottom of the deck. Sis, the reversed 10 of Cups speaks to emotional disharmony—those relationships, family issues, or internal struggles that just don’t seem to fit together. The reversed 2 of Swords? That’s your intuition screaming at you to stop avoiding the hard truths. Spirit’s saying that healing comes when we stop pretending and face what we’ve been ignoring.

Now, let’s break down the 10 secrets to self-healing—from someone who’s been through it, studied it, and learned to trust herself in the process.

1. Own Your Healing Power

This is number one for a reason. Self-healing begins the moment you realize that no one else can do this for you. Yes, people will help, therapists will guide, friends will support, but the deep healing? That’s all you, love. Don’t hand over your power by thinking someone else has the magic fix.

2. Stop Bypassing Your Feelings

Look, we all do it. We tell ourselves we’re “fine” when we know we’re not. The reversed 2 of Swords is calling you out—stop dodging the truth. If you’ve been avoiding making a decision, pretending not to see the problem, or burying your emotions, healing can’t happen. You have to sit with your feelings, no matter how uncomfortable.

3. Set Boundaries Like Your Life Depends on It

Let me tell you something—boundaries are your lifeline. The reversed 10 of Cups is a big clue that relationships might be draining you or there’s emotional chaos around you. Start setting boundaries, not just with others, but with yourself. Stop giving access to people who don’t deserve it, and start protecting your energy.

4. Let Go of the Fairy Tale

That reversed 10 of Cups? It’s calling out the illusion of the “perfect life.” Healing happens when you stop chasing what you think life should look like and start living for what you need. Whether that’s stepping away from toxic family dynamics or letting go of a relationship that’s only good on paper, it’s time to face reality.

5. Forgive Yourself First

We always talk about forgiving others, but when’s the last time you forgave yourself? Self-healing means releasing the guilt and shame you carry for past decisions. You were doing your best with what you knew at the time. Let that go, because holding onto it is just blocking your healing.

6. Listen to Your Body

Your body talks to you—listen. When you’re stressed, anxious, or carrying unhealed trauma, it manifests physically. Whether it’s headaches, stomach issues, or just feeling off, your body is telling you something’s wrong. Start moving, stretching, breathing—whatever it takes to reconnect with yourself and release what you’ve been holding.

7. Stop Waiting for Closure

The reversed 2 of Swords is that uncomfortable reminder that sometimes, you’re not going to get the closure you’re waiting for. People won’t always give you the apology, the explanation, or the validation you think you need. You have to close that door yourself and move on without the bow on top.

8. Get Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

Healing is messy. It’s sitting in the discomfort, the pain, the uncertainty—and choosing to keep going anyway. There’s no shortcut through healing. Sometimes you’ll have to cry it out, journal it out, scream it out. Whatever it takes, do it. That’s part of the process.

9. Connect with Your Higher Self

We are spiritual beings having a human experience. Healing is more than just emotional or physical—it’s deeply spiritual. Connect with your higher self, your guides, or whatever resonates with you. Whether it’s meditation, prayer, or pulling cards like I do, take time to listen to the whispers of your soul.

10. Give Yourself Grace

Finally, and most importantly, give yourself grace. Healing is not linear. There will be days when you feel like you’ve made huge strides, and days when you feel like you’re back at square one. It’s all part of the journey. Be kind to yourself, and remember that healing takes time.

Final Thoughts:

Healing isn’t something that happens overnight. It’s a choice you make every day—to show up for yourself, to face the hard stuff, and to believe that you deserve peace. The Tarot is just a tool to reflect what you already know deep down. The 10 of Cups reversed reminds you to stop chasing the perfect, and the 2 of Swords reversed is telling you to face the truth. You’ve got this, but remember—it starts with you.

Take the time to heal, sis. No one else can do it for you. 💛